“Oh maybe, I don’t know if you can help me. I’m looking for... *hushed voice* ... a coder.”
“Heh, no, no. I’m looking for a serious coder... for a business project.” They’d answer, suddenly puffing up.
“A good one.” They’d day, usually pulling up a chair.
“Yes but, what coding language?”
“Oh well I don’t know, that’s up to them.” They’d wave dismissively with one hand.
“It’s an APP!” (It’s always an app)
Sometimes I’d let them launch into their pitch, sometimes I’d cut them off.
Either way I’d say: “I see, and the salary you’re offering?”
“What? No this is like a start-up thing.”
I’d nod, still pretending to take notes. “I see, so you’re offering 50% of the company.”
They’d shake their heads and go “What? No. I mean we’ll see if it makes money, but this is a great idea!”
Business Bro: “I’ll be handling the business side of things.”
Me: “That’s great. So, what salary are you offering again?”
Me: *scratching stuff out on my fake notes* “Hold on, you said you needed a good coder when you came in. Now you need a great coder?”
Me: “That’s awesome, starting salary for a senior app developer is 80k plus benefits.”
Me: “I mean, it’s a very in-demand skill set.”
Me: *putting down fake notes* “coding genius...?”
Me: what makes you think coders don’t have their own ideas?
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No not Piers Morgan, I give no shits about him.
I mean this thing of criticizing women’s sensuality and then saying that they should get by on just their talent. Cause we see it everywhere...
Hi Joan, my mother taught me to speak my mind & never be afraid to express honestly held opinion.— Piers Morgan (@piersmorgan) November 21, 2018
Ellen's a hypocrite - and as for Little Mix, I'd just prefer they use their talent to sell records rather than their nudity.
As your own daughter does...! https://t.co/nCQAsIgoVG
And it comes up in a lot of different spaces:
And it comes up in a lot of different ways:
It’s interesting because we know that psychologically speaking, conventionally attractive people are better received.
Attraction can shift as you get to know someone on an individual level, but overall our society privileges people who look good.
I don’t understand the question?
This is a survival mechanism. I'm not saying it's not an issue, I'm just asking how do you fix it? Or can you fix it? If not are you just complaining to complain?— JustUnderReality (@under_just) November 21, 2018
“Rude” is one of the first blocks we go to when we’re presented with behavior we don’t like. It’s powerful, it has the ability to shut you down.
Conflict is not abuse. They’re different. We have a habit of shutting down conflict and dismissing abuse.
I used to be an actor, and in acting conflict is crucial to a scene. It’s how things happen. It’s not rude, it’s the moment where different objectives clash. Rudeness is a tactic to get what you want.
And someone else saying you’re being rude? That’s just them trying to shut you down.
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Sam has a collection of purses because he likes to carry things around. And he also loves to have his nails painted bright colors because he thinks they “look beautiful.” And he’s right – they are beautiful…
So he proudly wore his red nail polish to kindergarten this morning because Sam has absolutely no concept of nail polish only being for girls or reason to think anyone would possibly have a problem with beautiful nails.
But his classmates did have a problem. A big one. Sam was ridiculed for being a boy with nail polish. They called him names and told him to take it off. This lasted the entire day.
PEOPLE: "He can't eat babies, that's super illegal."
TRUMP, on TV, eating babies, not even cooking them first: "People are saying that I really am the best baby-eater, folks."
NYT: "Trump Vs. Babies: The Rhetoric On Both Sides Must Stop"
Jeff Flake tweets: "It is a sad day in America when this callous man can eat babies live on TV"
Jeff Flake, 10 seconds later, votes to help him install a series of 4,000 new judges that are very, very pro-babyphagia.
Judge Kavanaugh, found drunk in a Capitol Hill closet: "I LIKE BEER. OKAY? I LIKE BEER AND I LIKE BABIES AND THAT'S NOT SO WRONG. THAT'S RIGHT. I LIKE BABIES DIPPED IN BEER. I JUST DIP EM. IN THE BEER. THE BABIES. THE BABIES I EAT. OKAY? THAT'S AMERICA."
Mike Pence, wringing his hands about the baby-eating: "We must take care of our children. Our youngest must be protected on this troubling day."
Mike Pence then invites a Baby Chef to say a prayer.
Twitter Users: "It's a distraction technique! Trump eating babies is trying to DISTRACT YOU from ALL THE OTHER HORRORS, which are themselves distractions from the BABY-EATING. It's DISTRACTIONS ALL THE WAY DOWN."
Trump: *eats tons of babies at a rally*
*literal tons of babies*
people say \u201ckids don\u2019t read anymore because they\u2019re addicted to their phones,\u201d but the kids are on their phones writing novels, sharing Jane Austen memes, passionately arguing about literature. reading has never been cooler.— the library haunter \U0001f989\U0001f47b\U0001f383 (@SketchesbyBoze) November 18, 2018
In fact most of my university time has been filled with this kind of rhetoric, mostly from professors, from laptop bans to full-on tirades about “back in my day”.
Which is especially fascinating given that almost all of my profs are boomers and according to the stats...
“Baby boomers spend 27 hours per week online, which is two hours more per week than those who are between 16 and
I like digital spaces. In some ways they feel more real, we don’t talk about how’s the weather and how’s your sister and all those annoying scripted conversation topics.
If I want to sit here and type a feminist rant I can; and I’m not going to get hauled off by the cops for disturbing the peace.
I can have deep, meaningful conversations and connections with people without navigating the sensory overload of public spaces.
When I was sexually harassed by the director of the area I was working in, I was afraid to report it because I was worried that "getting him in trouble" would result in the subtle retaliation of missed leadership opportunities.
I wanted to continue working on the team I was on, because I'd gained a lot of very deep knowledge and expertise in that area, as well as reputation and camaraderie with the other folks working in that area. I didn't want to make the situation more "difficult."
To get promoted at Google, several need to happen: 1. you need opportunities for ownership and leadership above your current level (basically, opportunities to show you're working at the next level you're trying to get promoted to). The work you're "assigned" has a big impact.
2. You need glowing reviews from peers, *at or particularly above the level you're hoping to get promoted to.* Basically, you need people a lot more senior than you to say you're doing awesome work.