1/ I want to start an honest conversation about kids: They are terrible for your career. They strain your marriage. They make you way poorer.
But they are also the best decisions I’ve made in my life. Here’s what my experience has been like with two young ones.
Then we decided to have kids...
The joy of having children comes down to some really simple things:
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Also, watch @KimsConvenience. It’s required for all Korean diaspora. C @MikeYuan82
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2/ @nateliason wrote a fabulous article about this topic, which first introduced me to this concept. Everyone should read it:
3/ @alexisohanian also recently spoke about struggle porn, though referring to it as ‘hustle porn.’ (as the co-founder of @hustlefundvc, obviously I take issue with this pejorative definition of ‘hustle’, but that’s another topic)
4/ Struggling in itself isn’t necessarily bad. Let’s be real here--if you’re going to start a startup, you will struggle. Founders should expect to work harder generally than employees. You will be challenged in many ways and also be super rewarded in others. This is normal.
5/ However, if you are over-indexing on hard work without clear purpose and degrading your mental health/relationships in the process--then this is very bad and we obviously should not celebrate this behavior.
I want to confess my own journey of success, as it relates to Privilege.
2/ My Korean parents were poor when they arrived to the US, seeking opportunities for their future kids. Upon immigrating, my father Germanized the spelling of our last name (B-A-H-N), with the rational that a white-sounding last name would open up opportunities. I think it has.
3/ By the time I was born, my parents were doing very well. I never suffered their trauma of poverty. I lived in a big house and went to the best public schools. As a kid, I never felt like I was missing any resources.
4/ Partly because of my abundant resources, I was able to attend Stanford. Mom and Dad paid for that too, and I graduated with no debt. They even bought me a Honda after completing grad school! (I know, spoiled brat)
5/ With my family safety net, great education, zero debt, economy car, and abundance mindset--I went forth into the world ready to take huge risks. Taking risks was easy and natural, because I COULD AFFORD IT. Success followed.
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A. Yes! When using arrow functions, the scope of "this" is effectively passed in from the outer scope. See here in this REPL
Q. Where does Polymer fit in? Is it considered a framework like the others?
A. @Polymer is an excellent way to create web components, which are ideal for creating sets of interactivity that can be shared in web apps.
Q. Have we gone framework crazy?
A. At one time, quite possibly. A few years back we literally had framework overload. I feel it really has solidified into a few very strong choices.
Q. [Is] there no more need for @polymer?
A. See my previous question on this ... but in general, I think there is a lot of room for Web Components with frameworks.
I'm still pissed about the bait and switch they pulled by telling me I'd be working on Chrome, then putting me on this god forsaken piece of shit on day one.
This will be a super slow burn that goes back many years. I’ll continue to add to over the next couple of days. I’ll preface it with a bunch of backstory and explain what I had left behind, which made me more unhappy about the culture I had come into.
I spent most of my early career working for two radical sister non-profit orgs. I was the only designer working on
anywhere from 4-5 different products at the same time. All centered around activism and used by millions of people.
It’s how I cut my teeth. Learned to be the designer that I am today. Most importantly, the people I worked for are imho some of the greatest people on the planet. Highly intelligent, empathetic, caring, and true role models for a young me. I adore them.
You might not know who they are, but if you’re reading this then you have definitely seen their work. Maybe OpenCongress, or Miro, or maybe Amara which is Vimeo’s partner transcription service. Definitely Fight for the Future, our internet defenders, which was shortly after me.
(1) The notion that R is well-suited to "building web applications" seems totally out of left field. I don't feel like most R loyalists think this is a good idea, but it's worth calling out that no normal company will be glad you wrote your entire web app in R.
(2) It is true that Python had some issues historically with the 2-to-3 transition, but it's not such a big deal these days. On the flip side, I have found interesting R code that doesn't run in modern R interpreters because of changes in core operations (e.g. assignment syntax).
(3) "Most of the time we only need a latest, working interpreter with the latest packages to run the code" -- this is where things get real and reveal some things that hurt data scientists. If this sentence is true, it's likely because you don't share code with coworkers.
(3) Really is a broader issue in data science: people only think of what they need to do their work if no one else existed and code was never maintained. Junior data scientists almost always operate on projects they start from scratch and don't have to maintain for long.
Let folks have their many talents, interests and gifts. Life is far more fun with variety, loves.
A lot of folks have come to know me as an activist & I’m grateful that folks care to know me at all.
But I wasn’t born in 2014. I was a whole teacher, executive, policy person, speaker, arts and culture lover, reader, writer, woman of faith, fashion and more before 4 yrs ago 🤷🏾♀️
We rightfully complain that marginalized people are not allowed to be fully human.
But we internalize and transfer our oppression daily. It’s a smog. We all breathe it in & act it out.
And then tell WoC “girl ain’t you supposed to be a _______? Why you doing ____?”
Can I live?
And don’t go reading anything personal into this-this isn’t about me necessarily and it’s no subtweet (I try hard not to do that.)
I’ve just been observing that behavior more and more lately. Especially when it comes to marginalized folks.
Evolution should be our aspiration.
“Can’t knock the hustle” should be our anthem.
As long as someone isn’t bringing active and continual harm, why can’t they explore their many sides?
1/ I want to start an honest conversation about kids: They are terrible for your career. They strain your marriage. They make you way poorer.— Eric (@ericbahn) October 25, 2018
But they are also the best decisions I\u2019ve made in my life. Here\u2019s what my experience has been like with two young ones.